Working on myself have not been easy, especially when you are constantly questioned. One comment that always stands out, among many others, has got to be, “you’ve changed.” Well yeah I have, and I am very much proud of my growth. Now, see, wanting to change is not the issue here. Staying stagnant — now that’s the real problem.
One of the most challenging part about embarking on the path of inner work is facing criticisms and I mean LOADS of them. People don’t quite understand why you’re evolving. It is heart wrenching but, very unfortunately, these people are usually those who are very close to you. Sometimes, it is hard to wrap your mind around this. Questions like, “why are they not happy that I’m becoming better?” or “am I even doing this right?” runs in your mind in a loop.
If you’re in this position, then fret not, you’re not alone. Below are some tips and reminders that might aid you in this journey inward.
These people aren’t unhappy with you changing. But you changing becomes an intimidating reminder of their stagnancy and lack of understanding of themselves. Consequently, in their frustration, they tend to lash out on you. It’s okay, pray for their well-being and let it go.
Yes you’re doing it right. The more awareness you gain, the more you realise how certain people are just not good for your growth. And if you have to, let them go. No, it’s not selfish. It’s your well-being that’s on the line. Prioritise it.
The sad reality is that people love feeding themselves on your reaction. The moment you start observing instead of reacting to their nonsense, it drives them crazy. It’s okay, let them be. Be conscious of who you feed with your energy. Not everyone deserves a reaction.
Do not expect everyone to understand your journey. You’re not here to please the entire world. It’s simple — they won’t get it until they themselves embark on that journey. So set your intentions right, trust yourself and put your faith in Allah (God). You’re doing fine.
Start filtering your circle. Don’t be scared to walk away from people who no longer serve you. Be mindful of who you spend most of your time with — the vibes you’re around basically dictates your life in the long run. Surround yourself with people who understand you and are willing to push you to become better and towards positive change. Keep a distance from those who refuse to get out of their negative stagnancy — you don’t need that in your life.
All in all, keep your head high up and keep moving forward. As hard as it may get, my dear friends, you have got this! I promise.
Originally published on my Medium, on March 31, 2020. Click here to access it.